Every four years, I find myself giving birth. Unfortunately, not to a child but to a book. So I'm pleased announce I am writing a third book. I'm due at the end of the year but this baby won't appear in public until January 2014 from B&H Publishing. We'll figure out what to call it later on.
I'm also pleased to announce I'm test-driving some of the material at this weekend's Christian Working Woman conference in Chicago. If you're in the area, check it out. I'd love to meet you. Unfortunately, I won't be able to introduce you to my co-writer, Nora Shank. She'll be at home doing the heavy lifting while I'm running around talking.
So what's the book about? Let me introduce you via the first draft of the preface. Read it and send your questions and comments. Just like with Radical Womanhood, I'll be working out some of the material here with you all, the loyal readers. I look forward to your feedback!
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In the age of science, truth oddly enough became one of its first victims.
Take for example, the idea that the earth is flat. We’ve all been taught that our ancestors believed this because church leaders promoted it. But in fact, the idea of a spherical world had been accepted as early as the 4th century B.C.[1] Anyone who has watched a boat sail over the edge of the horizon and return could never have believed the earth was flat. So where did this idea come from? Two books in the late 19th century promoted this idea to stigmatize Christian beliefs and support “scientific” thinking. After their publication, nearly every secondary-school textbook in America featured that “fact,” even if diligent study of historical materials and common sense dictated otherwise.[2]
Truth was squashed to serve an ideological agenda.
As 21st century women, we also have been handed a number of “flat earth” facts about our lives that we accept without question. Those beliefs are sometimes shared by the men in our lives, which makes this problem ultimately a human one. It can be hard to discern them except for one factor: you can recognize a “flat earth” fact by the one-size-fits-all box that it comes with.
I am passionate about calling out “facts” that are based on one-size-fits-all thinking. Especially when the advice is applied broadly to all women at all times, no matter their circumstances, location, training, gifting, or personal histories. Most importantly, I am passionate about calling out “facts” that don’t line up with the grace, mercy, and freedom offered to us in the gospel of Jesus Christ—especially for those who have never heard that good news! That’s why I wanted to write this book—to help women in many stages of life to think clearly about the God-given gifts and opportunities they have, and how to invest those individual and specific situations in light of the reality of eternity.
You probably picked up this book because you have questions about work/life balance. I’ve been thinking about the topic for decades myself. I grew up in the midst of the women’s liberation movement of the 1960s and 1970s, studied journalism and feminist women’s studies in college, and then became a Bible-believing Christian at 30—which shook up all my prior assumptions about being female. I’ve worked all my life because I had to support myself as a single woman. I have a high view of marriage and motherhood, even though I’ve never had children of my own. And I’ve traveled extensively to other nations, where most of my American ideas and assumptions have been challenged. In other words, I’ve been all around the circle when it comes to the issue of being female and what we “should” be doing as women.
In a way, this book is the third in a trilogy. My first book explored the concept of being a godly, fruitful woman who was unmarried.[3] I wrote it when I realized I was carrying around a silly notion that “real” womanhood was somehow conferred on those who got married and had children. That concept collided with the truth of the Proverbs 31 woman—a passage in the Bible that describes an incredibly competent, financially savvy, generous, hospitable, loving woman who is fruitful and does good “all the days of her life” (Prov. 31:12). That passage is a portrait of wise living in many seasons of a woman’s life, an acrostic that was taught to a young future ruler by his wise mother so that he’d know both his alphabet and what to look for in an unmarried woman who would one day make an excellent wife. In other words, these are virtues that need to be cultivated in every season of a woman’s life, especially the early years. That insight revealed I had been deriving more identity from an adjective (“single”) than a noun (“woman”), which was not the emphasis I saw in the Bible. In studying what Scripture said about being a woman made in the image of God, I was released from my false concept that being single was somehow less feminine. (Less preferred is another matter. That’s where the trusting God theme came in.)
That project led to further contemplation of the meaning of womanhood and the publication of my second book, which was really the book I wanted to read as a new believer.[4] I wanted someone to explain to me the history of feminism—the good, the bad, and the ugly—and compare it with what I was reading in the Bible. How did our culture end up with so many contrasting definitions and evaluations of femininity?
In doing the research for this book, I was startled to discover I basically knew nothing about the history of the home. I had no idea that my understanding was derived solely from a 20th-century American experience, where the home was seen as a place to store your stuff and showcase your taste. I had no idea how profoundly the 19th century had influenced the role, place, and activities of the home. For most of history, the home had been a place of productivity and the small business unit of the local economy. By the 20th century, it became a center of consumption. The public sphere—the marketplace—was the valued sphere. The private sphere—the place of intangible investment—was the devalued sphere. Yet all the activities of the private sphere were the ones that awaited eternal reward: the cultivation of loving marriages, the rearing and discipling of the next generation, the care for elderly or disabled relatives, and the mission of outreach to neighbors and hospitality for the church.
So what about that public sphere? Having written about biblical womanhood, marriage, motherhood, and the private sphere, I was left with one more area to consider. Ironically, right after the publication of my second book, I plunged headfirst into the world of small-business entrepreneurs by establishing my documentary film company in the depths of the Great Recession. It was a brand-new lesson in trusting God for provision and wisdom to manage others. As I was busy trying to keep my company afloat, my pastor suggested that I consider writing another book, this time on the topic of women and work. Overwhelmed with daily tasks, I laughed at the idea when he brought it up. But it took root and began to grow.
At the same time, I was receiving emails and calls from a friend whose life trajectory was very different from mine, but who had some of the same questions about women and productivity. I had known Nora Shank for a few years while she was single, but now she was a 30-year-old married mother of two with a part-time business living on the opposite side of the country. Whatever Nora found in the news or the blogosphere about work, she forwarded to me. As my inbox grew and our conversations lengthened, I realized our divergent life experiences were a great reason to collaborate. So we began brainstorming about this book.
I think it’s no surprise that far more verses in the Proverbs 31 portrait are about productivity and financial management than relationships. The divide we created in the 19th century between work and home is an artificial one. In the biblical narrative, work is a co-labor of love. In response to criticism that He healed a sick man on the Sabbath, Jesus said, “My Father is working until now, and I am working” (John 5:17). His work was to glorify His Father and help others. Ours is the same.
Over the years, I’ve talked to many women about whether or not they should pursue a career. My answer is always no. Not because I’m trying to hand someone else another one-size-fits-all box, but because the modern concept of “career” is a selfish one. It’s ultimately about self-fulfillment and self-definition.
What should women do instead? Become good investors. It is God who gives us the relationships, children, time, talents, interests, and tasks that fill our days and years. We can’t force these things to happen nor are these things our true and complete identities. We may be wives or mothers, but as important as these are, they are roles that end in this life. We continue on as children of God and sisters to those who have been rescued by Christ. We may work in highly esteemed professions or we may not be paid for our daily labors. Those roles are not our identities, either. They are opportunities to steward for the glory of God. Whatever God gives us in terms of relationships and opportunities, He wants multiplied for the sake of His kingdom.
What follows is our exploration of how that looks for different women at various stages of life. May you find much encouragement to be a creative, fruitful, and industrious woman in the pages that follow. Join us as we jump into the adventure of co-laboring with our Creator in loving others through our productivity.
[1] Flat Earth: The History of an Infamous Idea, Christine Garwood, New York: Thomas Dunne Books, St. Martin’s Press, 2007, p. 20.
[2] Stephen Jay Gould, “The Late Birth of a Flat Earth,” Dinosaur in a Haystack: Reflections in Natural History (New York: Crown, 1996), 38–52.
[3] Crossway Books published Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye? Trusting God with a Hope Deferred in 2004.
[4] Moody Publishers released Radical Womanhood: Feminine Faith in a Feminist World in 2008.
Sanctity of Life, Gendercide, and Science
Much of the history of the past two centuries has involved the expansion and enriching of the concept of life’s sacredness in various forms. It has expanded in that the logic of every human life has demanded universal application—to religious minorities, women, racial and ethnic minorities, the poor and property-less, the disabled, and so on.
At one level, the Roe v. Wade decision represented an attempt to value the sanctity of women’s lives by providing a legal freedom that some believed was necessary to protect it. Thus the most charitable reading of that decision was that it was an effort to stand in continuity with the trend toward the expansion of human dignity, in this case on behalf of women.
For those of us who believe that decision was wrong, we still face the task of showing not just that Roe opened the door to the mass destruction of developing human lives in utero, and that this assaults life’s sanctity. We must also show why Roe does not succeed in advancing the sanctity of women’s lives, and must offer both on-the-ground and legal alternatives that can do better.
Abortion was and is valued by supporters because it is seen in the continuum of the long march for women's rights. While I support many of those rights, I cannot say that pitting the life of an adult woman against her unborn child is a step-up in that progression. I urge pro-abortion supporters to study and know the ideas of people like Margaret Sanger, who purported to advance the cause of women but actually held to the Nazi idea of eugenics that some lives are worth more than others. This is why less than 100 years after Sanger began her crusade for women's reproductive rights, somewhere between 100 and 166 million girls worldwide are missing due to female gendercide, largely because of sex-selective abortions. The terrible irony is that abortion did not ensure that the lives of women were more valued after all.
When Roe v. Wade legalized abortion, the scientific argument in favor of it was based on the issue of "viability." Until a certain stage in the pregnancy, the fetus was seen as just an undeveloped blob of tissue and not a viable life. But even as that argument was being made in the early '70s, the ultrasound machine was being developed and our ability to actually see the wondrous development of human life undercut that argument. In fact, that development led to the famous conversion of an abortionist, a doctor who later made a film showing an abortion on ultrasound called Silent Scream.
With scientific advances like ultrasound technology and prenatal medicine, viability today is a medical collision course where doctors find themselves intervening to either create or save one fetus and then aborting another of the same fetal age. The only determining factor is whether the pregnant woman values or wants that life or not, a position akin to other abuses in history.
Therefore, as a culture we have not really made the progression in human rights that we believe we have.
Since Roe v. Wade in 1973, since the declaration of Sanctity of Human Life Sunday in 1984, the ethics surrounding sanctity of life have only gotten more complicated. As one bioethicist told The New York Times, "In an odd way, having more choices actually places a much greater burden on women, because we become the creators of our circumstance, whereas, before, we were the recipients of them. I’m not saying we should have less choices; I’m saying choices are not always as liberating and empowering as we hope they will be."
Though it may seem that the bitter disagreements surrounding this topic will never end, I see that some of the underlying assumptions for abortion have been challenged over time. Therefore, as some of us will acknowledge Sanctity of Human Life Sunday tomorrow, I hope we will not grow weary of standing up for the lives of the pre-born. I also pray our concern for the value of human life will also lead us to fearlessly challenge other human rights abuses, such as human trafficking, modern slavery, gendercide and more.
To study this topic further, I recommend a new e-book by John Piper, made free courtesy of the Desiring God ministry.
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